Elly Oka, BACP

Counsellor - anxiety and trauma

Stress and anxiety
Trauma and abuse
Self esteem

About Elly

Counsellor Elly Oka is a BACP member with five years' experience working in the United Kingdom. She helps people with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, plus issues around self-esteem, grief and career difficulties. Sessions are aimed at practical change and clearer thinking rather than labels or diagnostic assessment.

Elly uses straightforward talking therapy to help people untangle difficult feelings. She listens to what matters to each person and uses methods from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Client-Centred work. This means sessions can include looking at thoughts and behaviours, noticing values, and finding small steps that feel achievable.

Her approach also draws on Attachment-Based ideas and elements of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy when relationships or strong emotions are central. That can involve looking at how past relationships affect current patterns and building techniques to manage intense feelings. The focus is on what helps in day-to-day life rather than technical descriptions of techniques.

Elly has supported people through addiction concerns, intimacy-related difficulties, parenting strain and coping with life changes. She also works with areas such as ADHD, chronic illness, cancer-related stress and bereavement. The emphasis is on practical coping, clearer communication and restoring routine where possible.

Sessions are offered in English and Elly accepts clients in the United Kingdom and international clients. She asks new clients to complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule a first session using the site process described on the profile page.

Therapeutic approaches used for online counselling

Elly uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people clarify what matters to them and to take small, values-based steps. ACT can be useful for anxiety, low mood and coping with life changes. She also uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to look at how thoughts, feelings and behaviours interact and to try practical changes that reduce distress.

Finding the best approach is part of the work. Elly will discuss options with each person and agree together which methods to try based on the client's needs, goals and preferences. The process is collaborative and may combine elements from different approaches as progress is reviewed.

Session formats are not specified on the biography, so please confirm current online counselling options before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit appointments into a busy week, cut travel time and allow a shorter check-in when needed. They can also suit people who prefer not to be on camera or who need a low-bandwidth option, depending on the format offered.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesGrief Self esteem Depression

Also works with

AddictionsFamily conflictsTrauma and abuse Intimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigue ADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityBlended family issuesCancerCaregiver issues and stress Chronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependencyCommitment issues Communication problems Control issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDissociationDivorce and separation Domestic violenceEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgiveness Guilt and shameHearing impairedHoardingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelity Isolation / loneliness Jealousy Life purpose Men's issues Midlife crisis Money and financial issuesMulticultural concernsNarcissism Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD Panic disorder and panic attacks PhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stress Pregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harm Self-loveSexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaVisually impairedWomen's issues Workplace issues Young adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Solution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

5+ years

Listed in

United Kingdom

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does she work with most often?

She works with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, plus self-esteem, grief and career difficulties among other issues.

What is her general approach in sessions?

She uses a talking therapy style that draws on ACT, CBT and client-centred methods to focus on practical steps and clearer thinking.

How much experience does she have?

She has five years of professional experience working as a counsellor in the UK.

Which professional body is she registered with?

She is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

Which languages are supported for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English.

Can people outside the UK work with her?

She accepts international clients as noted on her profile.

How are sessions paid for?

Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I start a first session?

Select the See online counselling options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session through the site.

Details come from information the counsellor supplied to BetterHelp. A membership or registration can be checked on the professional body's own register.

Online counselling is not emergency care. In an emergency call 999, or see the help numbers.

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